During Trump’s term, his end and up to the Inauguration, my family and I would sit down and have discussions about the turmoil we are living in. My father who isn’t so much a Trump supporter, but is not not a Trump supporter would often state in these conversations, “Well Biden isn’t the answer, either.” Who would also propose the question, “Well what is the answer?” and follow it with “There is no answer from what I can see.” And for the most part my father would become overwhelmed by the fact that there is no exact answer to our nation’s problems, me being passionate in my stance I would try to shove my words onto him hoping that he’d finally understand and hear what I’ve been saying and my dear mom would be the mediator, understanding where both of us are coming from, but not really doing much in response. And every once in a while my husband would add his two cents and share his thoughts and experiences.
I’ve recently come to a realization, that the way I was going about it was all wrong, not only because of how I know my father receives information and processes it, but also because I was allowing my guilt of the role the white community has played in our society and placing it on him. As if the idea that I am only as “good” of a person as my family and if he couldn’t change his thoughts and ways then that reflected bad upon me. So as I sit here writing this, I want to personally apologize to my Pops for how I have handled those conversations. The thing is, I know he does understand the issues that are going on, but with much privilege he has a hard time fathoming them. Which I think is a hard thing to face in general for the white community because for so long we have generationally allowed these acts to proceed and swipe them under the rug as if they are not as bad as what they really are. And in that aspect, so much of our community IS blind to the blatant systemic racism within this nation. Though under the recent presidential term, I don’t think we can continue to turn a blind eye. We have been faced with reality for all to see whether you want to or not. This is our time to rewrite, make do of our past. As Amanda Gorman well said,
“…, the hill we climb if only we dare it, because being American is more than a pride we inherit – it's the past we step into and how we repair it.”
I sat with pride and hope in my heart as the new first women, first black and south asian VP, Kamala Harris swore in and the new President, Joe Biden gave his first speech to the people for the people. I could only release a soft sigh as finally, we put an end to the past four years and are able to start a new. And that is what Biden is. He is not the answer, but a hand pulling us out of a burning building. And as I reflect on where we are and the hopes for the future, I take a deep breath and smile. Because for the first time, we as a nation have come together for the benefit of all by voting for change. That is what Biden is. A chance, a decision for change.
“And so we lift our gazes not to what stands between us, but what stands before us. We close the divide, because we know to put our future first, we must first put our differences aside. We lay down our arms so we can reach out our arms to one another. We seek harm to none and harmony for all.
Let the globe, if nothing else, say this is true: that even as we grieved, we grew; that even as we hurt, we hoped; that even as we tired, we tried; that we'll forever be tied together victorious, not because we will never again know defeat but because we will never again sow division.”
No one individual can ever be the answer. There is no leader that can change all our problems. I believe that it is up to us, the people, to be the answer. We want change, we must respect and support ourselves, our friends and family, our neighbors, our communities. We must hold each individual person accountable for their actions. I’m not talking about cancel culture, but to allow for conversations if something is said or done that is wrong so we can learn and grow from it. Communication will be our savior. If we continue to communicate and hold each other accountable, we hold our leaders accountable to following our lead. We are the ones living the day to day as Americans. We are the ones in the streets, breaking our backs for corporate companies just to be able to bring food to the table and have a roof over our heads. We must be the example of who and what America is. Because if we do, there is nothing that can stop us. Be the change. It starts with me and you. It starts with the simplest acts on a day to day basis. We must find our voices, say hello to the person walking past us. Shop small and local. Give our money to those that support us. Give back to the black community in support with our money. Because money is the way our society works. We must level out the scale in order to really move forward.
And that is what Jentle Land Mark is about. We are trying to do our part to level the scale and support one another. We believe in a community where we are all equal. Where we all can feel safe and share our voice. A community that listens and wants to learn and grow from one another in order to move forward in a society that is against it. We are here for the people. We are here to help in the order to create change in any big or small way that we can. It is our privilege to do what is right.
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